Wisdom From Jimmy John’s

1. Never under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.
2. If you had to identify, in a single word, the reason why the human race has not achieved, and will never achieve, its full potential, that word would be”meetings”.
3. There is a very fine line between a “hobby” and “mental illness”.
4. People who want to share their religious view with you almost never want you to share yours with them.
5. Do not confuse your career with your life.
6. Nobody cares if you can not dance well. Just get up and dance.
7. Never lick a knife
8. The most destructive force in the universe is gossip.
9. You will never find anyone who can give you a clear and compelling reason why we continue to observe daylight savings time.
10. You should never say anything to a woman that remotely suggests that you believe she is pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her at that moment.
11. There comes a time when you should stop expecting other people to make a big deal about your birthday. That time is at age eleven (11).
12. The one thing that unites all human beings, regardless of age, gender, religion, economic status, or ethnic background, is that deep down inside, we ALL believe we are better than average drivers.
13. A person who is nice to you but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person (this is VERY important, PAY ATTENTION, it never fails).
14. Your friends love you anyway.
15. Never be afraid to try something new. Remember that a lone amateur built the Ark. A large group of professionals built the Titanic.
16. Final thought of the day: men are like fine wine… they start out as grapes, and it is up to the women to stomp the snot out of them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with.

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Emotional Intelligence

 

TBN Staff:  Ever wonder why they are so illogical?  Why they don’t listen to reason?  Why they make everything so difficult?  Well it might be time to check out the man in the mirror and learn a little more about “emotional intelligence”.

By Kendra Cherry
Updated October 05, 2016

“Anyone can become angry – that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not easy.”
In this quote, the philosopher Aristotle perfectly sums up a concept that has become a hot topic in psychology, education, and business – emotional intelligence.
Emotionally intelligent people engage in a number of habits and behaviors that contribute to their ability to manage their own emotions and understand the feelings of others.
Do you know anyone who is keenly attuned to his or her own feelings, capable expressing emotions in an appropriate way, as well as empathetic and understanding of how others are feeling? That person is probably a very emotionally intelligent individual.
Emotional intelligence involves four major skills:
The ability to perceive emotions
The ability to reason with emotions
The ability to understand emotions
The ability to manage emotions.
Check out these key things that emotionally intelligent people do so that you can try to make some of these a habit in your own day-to-day life. And take this quiz to determine how emotionally intelligent you are, the answer might surprise you!
1. Emotionally intelligent people pay attention to what they are feeling.
Psychologist and author Daniel Goleman identifies self-awareness as one of the key components of emotional intelligence. Self-awareness involves the ability to recognize moods, emotions, and feelings.

Part of self-awareness also involves being aware of how your emotions and moods influence other people. This ability to monitor your own emotional states is a basic requirement for emotional intelligence.
2. They understand how other people feel.
Empathy is another of Goleman’s major elements of emotional intelligence.
This involves the ability to understand the emotions of other people. In order to interact with other people in multiple life domains, such as at work or at school, you need to be able to know what they are feeling. If a co-worker is upset or frustrated, knowing what he is feeling can give you a much better idea of how to respond.
3. They are able to regulate their emotions.
Self-regulation is absolutely central to emotional intelligence. Understanding your emotions is great, but not particularly useful if you cannot make use of this knowledge. Emotionally intelligent people think before they act on their feelings. They are in tune with how they feel, but they do not let their emotions rule their lives.
4. They are motivated.
Emotionally intelligent people are motivated to achieve their goals and capable of managing their behaviors and feelings in order to achieve long-term success. They might be nervous about making a change in their lives, but they know that managing this fear is important. By taking a leap and making the change, they know that they might make their lives better and come one step closer to attaining their goals.
5. They have great social skills
Emotionally intelligent people also tend to have strong social skills, probably in part because they are so attuned to their own feelings as well as those of others
They know how to deal with people effectively, and they are invested in maintaining healthy social relationships and helping those around them succeed.
6. They are willing and able to discuss feelings with others.
Sometimes people are empathetic and in tune with their emotions, but struggle to actually share these feelings with others. Emotionally intelligent people not only understand feelings, they know how to express them appropriately.
What exactly do we mean by appropriately? Imagine, for example, that you just had a particularly awful day at work. You are tired, frustrated, and angry about how things went at an important meeting.
An inappropriate expression of your feelings might involve coming home and getting into an argument with your spouse or sending a nasty email to your boss. A more appropriate emotional reaction would be discussing your frustrations with your spouse, releasing some tension by going for a jog, and coming up with a plan to make the next day better than the one before.
7. They are able to correctly identify the underlying causes of their emotions.
Imagine that you find yourself getting frustrated and angry with a co-worker. As you assess your feelings, analyze what you’re really upset about. Are you mad about your co-worker’s actions, or does your anger stem from underlying frustrations and pressure from a boss who has heaped too much work and responsibility on your shoulders? Emotionally intelligent people are able to look at the situation and correctly identify the true source of their feelings.
At first this might seem like an easy task, but the reality is that our emotional lives can be both complicated and messy. Locating the exact source of your feelings can be particularly tricky when you are dealing with powerful emotions such as love and anger.

 

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Laugh a little – Live a little longer

 

TBN Staff:   We came across this Joke  and just had to share.  Followed by the article, should cause all of us to reconsider our approach to the daily grind or routine.   After all it is about the quality and length of our lives!

A bald, retired Army helicopter pilot walked into a jewelry store in a local mall this past Friday evening with a beautiful much younger girl at his side. He told the jeweler he was looking for a special ring for his girlfriend. The jeweler looked through his stock and brought out a $5,000 ring. The pilot said, ‘No, I’d like to see something bigger and more special.’

At that statement, the jeweler went to his special stock and brought another ring over. ‘Here’s a stunning ring at only $40,000’ the jeweler said. The lady’s eyes sparkled and her whole body trembled with excitement.The crusty old pilot seeing the huge rock said, ‘We’ll take it.’

The jeweler asked how payment would be made and the pilot stated, ‘Well, by check. I know you need to make sure my check is good, so I’ll write it now, and you can call the bank Monday to verify the funds, and I’ll pick up the ring Monday afternoon.’

On Monday morning, the jeweler angrily phoned the pilot and said, ‘Hey buddy, there was only $25 in your account!’

‘I know’, said the old pilot, ‘But, let me tell you about MY GREAT WEEKEND!!!!

(Yeah, that could have been you)

 

By Steven M. Sultanoff, Ph.D.

Therapeutic Humor, The Newsletter of the American Association for Therapeutic Humor, Fall, 1998, Vol. XII, 5, p. 1-2. DATELINE: Year 2010

The Health Benefits of Humor Unfold – Humor Reduces the Risk of Heart Disease

After years of controversy about the physiological benefits of humor in one’s lifestyle, researchers have concluded that incorporating humor into one’s day to day responses to events reduces the risk of heart disease, heart attack, and premature death.

Based on research conducted during a ten year period from the year 2000 through 2010, it has been established that individuals who employ humor as a “serious” part of their everyday lives have fewer physical complaints (associated with heart disease), less arterial blockage, fewer angioplasties, fewer heart attacks, and greater longevity when compared to subjects who exhibited a depressive, anxious, or angry lifestyle. It appears that the experience of “pleasant” or mirthful emotions counteracts the deleterious, long-term physical effects of distressing emotions.
Measuring the Humorous Experience

Humorous lifestyle was measured as a person’s ability to receive humor as a cognitive, emotional, and/or physiological experience.

The cognitive component of the humor experience consisted of integrating a “comic vision” into one’s perception of the world. Use of humor to gain perspective, break rigid thinking patterns, and expand life’s options was evaluated. One’s ability to understand and appreciate humor (sometimes referred to as the “experience of wit”) was also explored as part of this cognitive aspect of the humor experience.

Researchers also rated the emotional component of a humorous lifestyle (sometimes referred to as “mirth”). The extent to which humor “lifts one’s spirits” and is felt as joy or pleasure was considered an indicator of this emotional experience.

The physiological component of humor was evaluated as the ability to laugh at life’s encounters. The depth of laughter from a giggle to a belly laugh was rated to assess an individual’s physiological reaction to daily events.

These cognitive, emotional, and/or physiological experiences were measured as indictors of one’s humor quotient. Individuals who were able to generate these kinds of humor reactions to life’s stressors were those individuals who achieved the physiological benefits of reduced heart disease.
Research on Emotions and Health

To fully understand the context of this recent study, we must consider the research reported in the mid-1990’s that demonstrated a significant relationship between chronic depression, anxiety, anger, and/or stress and heart disease (Consumer Reports on Health 1996a, 1996b, 1997a, 1997b, 1997c, 1998; Mind/Body Health, 1996a, 1996c, 1997; Hope Health Letter, 1998).

Studies published from 1996 to 1998 indicated that chronically depressed individuals were 70% more likely to have a heart attack when compared with their non-depressed counterparts (Mind/Body Health, 1996b). In addition, individuals who were depressed cost managed care companies twice as much in medical expenses as individuals who were not depressed (Mind/Body Health, 1996b).

Highly anxious individuals exhibited greater thickening of the arterial walls and were more often in need of repeated angioplasty compared to those who were less anxious. In the mid-1990’s it was estimated that anxiety-related disorders cost $15 billion annually in direct service costs–such as medical, administrative, research, and support services; and $50 billion in indirect costs–such as lost or reduced productivity, family care giving, illness, and death (Mind/Body Health, 1997).

Chronically angry individuals were found to have an increased risk of heart attack and death. In fact, these individuals were four to five times more likely to die from a heart attack compared to those who experienced significantly less anger (Williams and Williams, 1993).

Finally, individuals experiencing elevated levels of stress had greater arterial blockage when compared to individuals experiencing less stress. Researchers concluded that it was not the specific situation that was stressful, but it was the meaning of the situation to the individual that determined the amount of stress experienced by each individual (Hope Health Letter, 1998).
Rationale

The data reported in the mid-1990’s linking emotional distress to physical ailments–heart disease in particular–spawned the research during the years 2000 to 2010. The impact of humor was investigated further because of its apparent and reported impact on the emotional state of individuals. Since this research clearly linked distressing emotions with increased risk for heart disease and premature death, researchers hypothesized that a lifestyle that lowers distressing emotions could potentially lower these health risks and reduce premature mortality.

Anecdotal evidence has long supported the proposition that distressing emotions and humor cannot occupy the same psychological space (Sultanoff, 1997). Depressed individuals report that when they laugh their depression dissolves. Individuals who tend to be anxious frequently report that experiencing humor is a way to better cope and reduce anxiety.

Most of us have experienced situations where we have been angry in a particular situation, and that another person has attempted to use humor to reduce our anger. As we receive the humor, our anger usually dissipates. Sometimes we are not ready to “let go” of our anger and therefore–when in this angry state react to humor with a comment such as, “Don’t make me laugh; I still want to be angry.”
Conclusions

Based on these reports that humor reduces emotional discomfort, researchers proposed that a humorous lifestyle increases an individual’s ability to more effectively manage emotional distress—therefore reducing the damaging physical impact of these potentially harmful emotions.

The results of the research reported in 2010 indicate that a humorous approach to daily life creates healthful changes in cognitive (perspective to the world), emotional, and physiological states. It is these changes that researchers believe lead to improved physical health–particularly related to heart disease. Researchers further concluded that individuals who incorporate a humorous lifestyle into their daily lives are more likely to improve their overall physical and emotional health, thus maintaining optimal wellness.

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Social Security: 3 Things to Know Before Taking Benefits Early

 

 

By John Maxfield

Deciding when to take Social Security benefits is one of the most important decisions you’ll make in retirement. Should you take them at the earliest possible moment — that is, at the age of 62? Or should you wait until reaching full retirement at 66?
While this is a personal decision that must be tailored to your own needs and desires, there are three factors every retiree should consider before making a final decision — and particularly if you elect to receive Social Security benefits prior to full retirement age.
1. The size of your monthly benefits depends on when you elect to receive them
As you probably know by now, there are two major factors that influence the size of your monthly Social Security benefits.
First and foremost, your benefits are a function of how much eligible income you earn during your working life.
To determine this, the Social Security Administration adds up the income subject to Social Security tax, adjusted for inflation, that you earned during your 35 highest-earning years. It then divides the total by 420 — the number of months in 35 years. This yields your average indexed monthly earnings. The higher this is, the higher your benefits will be.
The second major factor that influences the size of your benefits is when you elect to receive them.
For workers retiring now, the full retirement age is 66. If you wait until then, you get your full benefit — or, in Social Security lingo, 100% of your “primary insurance amount.” However, if you elect to receive them early, then your monthly benefit is reduced for each month short of your 66th birthday. If you begin receiving them at 62, for example, then your benefit will be reduced by 25%.
By contrast, if you wait until turning 70, then you’re entitled to delayed-retirement credits, which increase your benefits by 8% for each year of deferment, topping out at a total of 32%.

2. For the average person, it doesn’t matter when you apply
Given the fact that your monthly benefits are reduced if you elect to receive them early, then it seems obvious that you shouldn’t do so, right?
Not necessarily.
For the average person, it ultimately doesn’t matter when you elect to receive benefits, as the Social Security Administration has designed the average retiree’s lifetime payouts to equal out regardless of when they choose to receive them.
“The Social Security benefit formula adjusts monthly payments so that someone living to average life expectancy should receive about the same amount of benefits over their lifetime regardless of which age they claim,” explains a recent government report on Social Security.
At the end of the day, in other words, the average retiree shouldn’t suffer for the decision to get smaller checks for longer.
3. Deciding when to apply for Social Security is about quality of life
With this in mind, the question of when to apply for Social Security benefits is less about some impersonal cost-benefit analysis and more about your needs and quality of life.
If you need income now, then you should take Social Security. If you don’t, then you should defer. Additionally, if taking Social Security early will facilitate an earlier retirement — which, in turn, will improve the quality of your life — then you should absolutely do so.
This is the reason 62 remains the most prevalent age for retirees to claim benefits. And it’s the reason you shouldn’t hesitate to do so yourself if you believe it’s the best option.
Remember, retirement is about you. It’s about comfort, leisure, and reflection. Those are the things to keep in mind when deciding whether to claim benefits early, not some break-even analysis that experts try to impose upon you.

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Words of Wisdom

Back 9  Staff: Here are a few words of wisdom offered by one of our readers.  We found ourselves smiling and remembering a few more that had been shared with us during our upbringing as well.  We recommend you take a moment and read a few on the list over the course of several weeks to let them revive the some of the teachings your parents shared along the way.  These little diddys may well bring a smile your way or a chuckle in your heart.  You may also decide to share a few of your own with the rest of us!  We have decided to keep this as a “running” list, so don’t forget to revisit it from time to time!

 

1) Go for women you perceive are out of your “league” – You’ll surprise yourself but remember “where there is a Ying there is also a Yang”

2) Never have sex with someone who does not want it as much as you

3) Never hit anyone unless they are an immediate threat

4) Every hat should have a purpose

5) Never take her to the movies on the first date

6) Learn to wet shave

7) Shave with the grain on the first go round

8) Nothing looks more badass than a well-tailored suit, that’s why women invented the tux

9) Always look the person in the eye when you talk with them

10) Preparation makes the roughs spots pass a little easier – Buy a plunger before you need a plunger

11) Excercise will make you happy.  Run, Lift and play sports while you can

12) The order of things is important, brush your teeth before you put on your tie

13) Invest in YOUR future – A small amount of each paycheck (even in retirement) should go to savings

14) Call your parents every week

15) Be true to yourself in all things – Never wear a clip on tie

16) Sincere presentation will open doors – Give a firm handshake

17) Compliment her shoes

18) Never leave a pint unfinished

19) Measure the size of the man by the size of the things that bother him

20) Be aware of your body language

21) Never point a gun at someone unless you intend to shoot them

22) Never lend anything you are not willing to lose

23) everybody likes to talk about themselves, ask more questions offer no advise

24) Prepare for the unexpected – Keep a change of clothes at the office

25) Minimize rework – Buy high quality tools, you will only need to buy them once

26) Manliness is being able to take care of others

27) Go with the decision that will make for a good story

28) Always demonstrate respect – stand when you shake someone’s hand

29) If you are not confident, fake it – Confidence will come with experiance

30) When you walk look up, submissive creatures always look down

31) Nice guys do not finish last – Boring guys do

32) Find your passion and figure out how to get paid for it

33) Don’t let the little head do the thinking for the big head

34) We are all God’s creatures – No matter their job or status in life, everyone deserves your respect

35) The first one to get angry loses

36) Life Happens, own it or be a victim – the challenge is to overcome adversity

37) Take off the bandaid quickly – Whining and complaining won’t lessen the pain or quicken the healing process

38) Never stop learning – turn off the electronics

39) Always go out into the public dressed like you’re about to meet the love of your life

40) Don’t change to make someone happy, unless that someone is you

41) If you are the smartest person in the room, you are in the wrong room

42) Luck favors the prepared

43) Women find confidence sexy as hell

44) Do whatever you wan to do in life, but be the best at it

45) Enjoy life – no ones final words have been they wished they had spent more time toiling at work or amassing more riches to leave behind