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Wisdom From Jimmy John’s

1. Never under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.
2. If you had to identify, in a single word, the reason why the human race has not achieved, and will never achieve, its full potential, that word would be”meetings”.
3. There is a very fine line between a “hobby” and “mental illness”.
4. People who want to share their religious view with you almost never want you to share yours with them.
5. Do not confuse your career with your life.
6. Nobody cares if you can not dance well. Just get up and dance.
7. Never lick a knife
8. The most destructive force in the universe is gossip.
9. You will never find anyone who can give you a clear and compelling reason why we continue to observe daylight savings time.
10. You should never say anything to a woman that remotely suggests that you believe she is pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her at that moment.
11. There comes a time when you should stop expecting other people to make a big deal about your birthday. That time is at age eleven (11).
12. The one thing that unites all human beings, regardless of age, gender, religion, economic status, or ethnic background, is that deep down inside, we ALL believe we are better than average drivers.
13. A person who is nice to you but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person (this is VERY important, PAY ATTENTION, it never fails).
14. Your friends love you anyway.
15. Never be afraid to try something new. Remember that a lone amateur built the Ark. A large group of professionals built the Titanic.
16. Final thought of the day: men are like fine wine… they start out as grapes, and it is up to the women to stomp the snot out of them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with.

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Veteran’s Crisis Line

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Emotional Intelligence

TBN Staff: Ever wonder why they are so illogical? Why they don’t listen to reason? Why they make everything so difficult? Well it might be time to check out the man in the mirror and learn a little more about “emotional intelligence”.

By Kendra Cherry
Updated October 05, 2016

“Anyone can become angry – that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not easy.”
In this quote, the philosopher Aristotle perfectly sums up a concept that has become a hot topic in psychology, education, and business – emotional intelligence.
Emotionally intelligent people engage in a number of habits and behaviors that contribute to their ability to manage their own emotions and understand the feelings of others.
Do you know anyone who is keenly attuned to his or her own feelings, capable expressing emotions in an appropriate way, as well as empathetic and understanding of how others are feeling? That person is probably a very emotionally intelligent individual.
Emotional intelligence involves four major skills:
The ability to perceive emotions
The ability to reason with emotions
The ability to understand emotions
The ability to manage emotions.
Check out these key things that emotionally intelligent people do so that you can try to make some of these a habit in your own day-to-day life. And take this quiz to determine how emotionally intelligent you are, the answer might surprise you!
1. Emotionally intelligent people pay attention to what they are feeling.
Psychologist and author Daniel Goleman identifies self-awareness as one of the key components of emotional intelligence. Self-awareness involves the ability to recognize moods, emotions, and feelings.

Part of self-awareness also involves being aware of how your emotions and moods influence other people. This ability to monitor your own emotional states is a basic requirement for emotional intelligence.
2. They understand how other people feel.
Empathy is another of Goleman’s major elements of emotional intelligence.
This involves the ability to understand the emotions of other people. In order to interact with other people in multiple life domains, such as at work or at school, you need to be able to know what they are feeling. If a co-worker is upset or frustrated, knowing what he is feeling can give you a much better idea of how to respond.
3. They are able to regulate their emotions.
Self-regulation is absolutely central to emotional intelligence. Understanding your emotions is great, but not particularly useful if you cannot make use of this knowledge. Emotionally intelligent people think before they act on their feelings. They are in tune with how they feel, but they do not let their emotions rule their lives.
4. They are motivated.
Emotionally intelligent people are motivated to achieve their goals and capable of managing their behaviors and feelings in order to achieve long-term success. They might be nervous about making a change in their lives, but they know that managing this fear is important. By taking a leap and making the change, they know that they might make their lives better and come one step closer to attaining their goals.
5. They have great social skills
Emotionally intelligent people also tend to have strong social skills, probably in part because they are so attuned to their own feelings as well as those of others
They know how to deal with people effectively, and they are invested in maintaining healthy social relationships and helping those around them succeed.
6. They are willing and able to discuss feelings with others.
Sometimes people are empathetic and in tune with their emotions, but struggle to actually share these feelings with others. Emotionally intelligent people not only understand feelings, they know how to express them appropriately.
What exactly do we mean by appropriately? Imagine, for example, that you just had a particularly awful day at work. You are tired, frustrated, and angry about how things went at an important meeting.
An inappropriate expression of your feelings might involve coming home and getting into an argument with your spouse or sending a nasty email to your boss. A more appropriate emotional reaction would be discussing your frustrations with your spouse, releasing some tension by going for a jog, and coming up with a plan to make the next day better than the one before.
7. They are able to correctly identify the underlying causes of their emotions.
Imagine that you find yourself getting frustrated and angry with a co-worker. As you assess your feelings, analyze what you’re really upset about. Are you mad about your co-worker’s actions, or does your anger stem from underlying frustrations and pressure from a boss who has heaped too much work and responsibility on your shoulders? Emotionally intelligent people are able to look at the situation and correctly identify the true source of their feelings.
At first this might seem like an easy task, but the reality is that our emotional lives can be both complicated and messy. Locating the exact source of your feelings can be particularly tricky when you are dealing with powerful emotions such as love and anger.

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Fun with your wife

After I retired, my wife insisted that I accompany her on her trips to Walmart. Unfortunately, like most men, I found shopping boring and preferred to get in and get out.

Equally unfortunately, my wife is like most women – she loves to browse and leaves me with endless time to fill.

Yesterday my dear wife received the following letter from the local Wal-mart:

Dear Mrs. Harris:

Over the past six months, your husband has caused quite a commotion in our store. We cannot tolerate this behaviour and have been forced to ban both of you from the store.
Our complaints against your husband, Mr. Harris, are listed below and are documented by our video surveillance cameras:

1. June 15: He took 24 boxes of condoms and randomly put them in other people’s carts when they weren’t looking.

2. July 2: Set all the alarm clocks in Housewares to go off at 5-minute intervals.

3. July 7: He made a trail of tomato juice on the floor leading to the women’s restroom.

4. July 19: Walked up to an employee and told her in an official voice, “Code 3 in Housewares. Get on it right away.”

This caused the employee to leave her assigned station and receive a reprimand from her supervisor that in turn resulted with a union grievance, causing management to lose time and costing the company money. We don’t have a “Code 3.”

5. August 4: Went to the Service Desk and tried to put a bag of M&Ms on layaway.

6. August 14: Moved a “CAUTION – WET FLOOR” sign to a carpeted area.

7. August 15: Set up a tent in the Camping Department and told the children shoppers he’d invite them in if they would bring pillows and blankets from the Bedding Department, to which twenty children obliged.

8. August 23: When a clerk asked if they could help him, he began crying and screamed, “Why can’t you people just leave me alone?” EMT’s were called.

9. September 4: Looked right into the security camera and used it as a mirror while he picked his nose.

10. September 10: While handling guns in the Hunting Department, he asked the clerk where the antidepressants were.

11. October 3: Darted around the store suspiciously while loudly humming the Mission Impossible theme song.

12. October 6: In the Auto Department, he practiced his “Madonna Look” using different sizes of funnels.

13. October 18: Hid in a clothing rack and when people browsed through yelled “PICK ME! PICK ME!”

14. October 22: When an announcement came over the loud speaker, he assumed a fetal position and screamed “OH NO! IT’S THOSE VOICES AGAIN!”

15. Took a box of condoms to the checkout clerk and asked, “Where is the fitting room?”

And last, but not least:

16. October 23: Went into a fitting room, shut the door, waited a while, and then yelled very loudly, “Hey! There’s no toilet paper in here.” One of the clerks passed out.

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A-Z of Alcoholism & Depression

TBN Staff: Paul, a researcher for “Rehab 4 Alcoholism” from across the pond in England wrote to “The Back Nine” and offered this article regarding depression related to addiction, specifically alcoholism. We found the article very informative and worth publishing. Please if you suffer from depression take a few minutes and consider the information in the article. It just may change your life.

BY: REHAB4ALCOHOLISM.COM / Paul

Alcohol use disorder (AUD)
Experts now refer to alcoholism as alcohol use disorder or AUD. This is because problems people experience with alcohol should not be limited to cases that are considered a ‘dependency’. AUD includes alcohol dependency, alcohol ‘alcohol abuse’ and ‘heavy alcohol consumption’ where a dependency has not arisen.
To suffer from AUD, the user must meet the criteria set out in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), under DSM–5.
To assess whether you or a loved one may have an AUD, ask some of the below qestions.
In the past year, have you:
• Had times when you ended up drinking more, or longer than you intended?
• More than once wanted to cut down or stop drinking, or tried to, but couldn’t?
• Spent a lot of time drinking? Or being sick or getting over the aftereffects?
• Experienced craving — a strong need, or urge, to drink?
• Found that drinking — or being sick from drinking — often interfered with taking care of your home or family? Or caused job troubles? Or school problems?
• Continued to drink even though it was causing trouble with your family or friends?
• Given up or cut back on activities that were important or interesting to you, or gave you pleasure, in order to drink?
• More than once gotten into situations while or after drinking that increased your chances of getting hurt (such as driving, swimming, using machinery, walking in a dangerous area, or having unsafe sex)?
• Continued to drink even though it was making you feel depressed or anxious or adding to another health problem? Or after having had a memory blackout?
• Had to drink much more than you once did to get the effect you want? Or found that your usual number of drinks had much less effect than before?
• Found that when the effects of alcohol were wearing off, you had withdrawal symptoms, such as trouble sleeping, shakiness, irritability, anxiety, depression, restlessness, nausea, or sweating? Or sensed things that were not there?

Alcohol, depression and the brain
When you consume an excessive amount of alcohol, the chemical constitution of your brain is altered. This is because alcohol depresses ‘neurotransmitters’ located in the brain. Neurotransmitters aid the transfer of signals between one nerve cell to another.
This means you feel relaxed and less inhibited when you drink alcohol. However, if you develop alcohol use disorder you will begin to experience a number of negative emotions such as depression, anxiety and anger. This is because alcoholism interferes with inhibitory neurotransmitters known as GABA-A. GABA-A is required for healthy mental health. Alcohol increases GABA-A. Because GABA-A is an inhibitory neurotransmitters, increasing its activity will slow nerve cells ability to transmit message across the brain.
Alcohol consumption also reduces levels of serotonin in the brain. Serotonin is a chemical located in the brain that helps us regulate our mood. Some of the symptoms associated with alcohol-induced reduce serotonin levels include:
• Poor sleeping after drinking
• Low mood
• Always feeling tired
• Experiencing anxiety for no apparent reason
Categories of depression
Below we list the various types of depression that you may result in alcoholism:
• Minor depression lasting less than a few days
• Clinical depression lasting longer than two weeks
• Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
• Postpartum depression
• Psychotic depression

Symptoms of Depression
Below we list common symptoms of depression:
• You commonly feel drained of energy
• You are unable to sleep at night
• You eat an excessive amount of food to comfort you

• You forget routine tasks
• You struggle to get out of bed in the morning
• You not longer enjoy hobbies you before enjoyed
• You are pessimistic about your future
• You experience body aches for no apparent reason
• You find it hard to concentrate
• You abuse drugs/alcohol to feel better about yourself
• You feel life lacks real meaning
• Suicidal ideation
• You disassociate with the world around you
• You are reluctant to socialize with others, even close friends and family
New research revealing alcoholism is often a symptom, not the cause of depression
A difficult conundrum for addiction experts is determining whether alcoholism is the cause of depression or whether alcoholism is a symptom of depression. In determining this important question, rehab centers typically carry out a comprehensive psychological assessment upon admission into their care. However, research conducted by the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism claims that for the vast majority of people, alcoholism is a symptom of an underlying mental condition and not the cause.
The majority of people suffering from alcoholism started to suffer from depression from an early age, typically during childhood. This depression is usually triggered by a traumatic event such as abusive parents, divorced parents or sexual abuse. Upon entering early adulthood, many of these traumatized young adults turn to drugs and alcohol as a ‘release’ from their worries. Adults who did not suffer a traumatic childhood are far less likely to develop alcoholism.

Childhood trauma and alcoholism
The retired footballer, Paul Gascoigne is a prominent example of somebody who suffered alcoholism due to trauma suffered in childhood. Gascoigne lived with his family in a single upstairs council house bedroom in Newcastle-Upon-Tyne. When Gascoigne was ten years old, he witnessed the death of a friend in a vehicle accident. Gascoigne claims these early experiences contributed to the development of his alcoholism in later life.
Adulthood trauma and alcoholism
However, traumatic events suffered during adulthood can also trigger alcoholism and drug use, particularly when these events trigger clinical depression. Traumatic events that lead to depression and addiction in adulthood include financial problems, the breakup of a relationship and workplace bullying.
Turning to booze in order to ‘self-medicate’ one’s depression is commonly referred to as ‘drowning one’s sorrows.” For instance, The Temptations lead singer, Paul Williams, suffered alcoholism and committed suicide in the early 1970s despite reporting a healthy and happy childhood. Paul turned to alcoholism as an escape from his creative and financial problems.
However, traumatic events suffered during adulthood are often a continuation of earlier traumatic events suffered during childhood. Traumatic events in the past thus increase the probability of new traumatic events occurring during adulthood. It is almost as if the sufferer is trapped in a maze of traumatic events. Alcohol and drug use are often seen as the sufferer’s ‘way out’.
A study involving 15,000 people illustrating the link between alcoholism and depression
One study conducted at Harvard University in America involved interviewing 15,000 twice over a one year period. After one year had lapsed those who reported signs of depression during the first interview were much more likely to have suffered from alcoholism over the next twelve months compared to interviewees who did not report any symptoms of depression.
However, the study also revealed those who suffered from alcoholism were more likely to suffer from depression over the course of the year. In both scenarios, women were at a greater risk than men of developing both depression and alcoholism.

But can alcoholism cause depression?
The answer to the above question is a resounding yes, at least according to numerous studies that examine the neurotoxic effects that alcohol exposure has on the brain. This is known as ‘alcohol induced depression’.
Let’s not forget that alcohol consumption makes you more likely to commit acts that they will later regret. In turn, these acts may lead to depression. Excessive alcohol drinking could lead to poor professional, social or financial decisions that in turn lead to your depression.
Depression and alcohol withdrawal
Depression may also arise when a person suffering from alcoholism attempts sobriety. Below we list reasons why depression may arise when sobriety is attempted:
• Alcohol withdrawal produces significant anxiety symptoms
• Cravings for alcohol can present as depression
• Coping with the effects of long periods of drinking leads to depression e.g. financial, relationship and work problems
• Immaturity of coping skills
The odds of developing depression if you suffer from alcoholism
Although there exists no absolute causal link between depression and alcoholism, study after study seems to show those who suffer from alcoholism are much more likely to suffer from depression when compared to people who do not suffer from alcoholism. This is particularly the case for people who suffer from long-term alcoholism. Studies confirm you are twice as likely to suffer from a depressive disorder if you suffer from alcoholism.
At Rehab 4 Alcoholism, we’ve found around 40% of alcoholics we treat have major depression. 50% have significant anxiety symptoms and 15% suffer from manic or elation symptom. After 4 weeks of sobriety, the incidence of depression reduces by around 10%, and anxiety reduces by around 15%. Clearly, a number of weeks of abstinence has the potential to reduce depression.
The odds of developing alcoholism if you suffer from depression
People suffering from depression may ‘self-medicate’ with alcohol in order to numb the pain caused by depression. This is because alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. Over time, many of these people begin to develop an addiction to alcohol. This is particularly the case for female sufferers of depression, for reasons that are largely unknown. When alcoholism is coupled with clinical depression, this is known as ‘dual diagnosis’.
Teens who experience clinical depression are twice as likely to suffer from alcoholism than teens who do not suffer from depression. Women are around twice as likely to suffer from alcoholism if they have suffered from clinical depression.
Unfortunately, self-medicating with alcohol in order to treat depression is highly ineffective. In fact, alcohol consumption is known to exacerbate the symptoms of depression, and even cause over related mental health problems such as anxiety.
Alcoholism and suicide
Alcoholism and alcohol abuse are also linked to suicide. Worryingly, when people are intoxicated they are much less inhibited when it comes to playing out suicidal ideas. 25% of suicides are solely attributable to alcohol. An Irish study revealed alcohol is present in around 58% of completed suicides. The same study revealed 93% of people under the age of 30 had alcohol in their blood when they committed suicide.
Since 1970, an increase in alcohol use has been accompanied by a similar increase in the number of suicides as illustrated in the below graph:

Factors influencing depression other than alcoholism

Although the link between alcoholism and depression are clearly apparent, there does exist other factors affecting the development of depression.
These factors include:
• A family history of depression/genetic factors
• Female gender – females are more likely to develop depression than males
• Experiencing a traumatic life event
• Childbirth
• Economic downturn
• Childhood neglect or abuse
• Personality traits: obsessive

• Personal isolation
• Physical illness: flu, thyroid disorder, cancerTreating your depression and alcoholism
We now outline 7 steps you may implement to reduce your depression and alcoholism:
#1. Detox from alcohol before you treat your depression
Alcoholism is a physical addiction that will aggravate your addiction. After all, alcohol is a depressant. It thus makes sense to detox from alcohol before you attempt to treat the underlying depression. Once you detox from alcohol, your depression should begin to decrease. This will make you feel happier. If your depression totally disappears, you can conclude your depression was probably caused by your drinking.
#2. Seek therapy for your depression
Now that you are detoxed from alcohol, you must re-assess your depression. If your depression continues despite quitting alcohol, you may be able to conclude your alcoholism was a symptom of your depression. In such a scenario, it’s important to see a therapist in order to treat your underlying depression. If you take no action, you risk relapsing since the conditions are still apt for your alcoholism to reappear.
Therapies we recommend for depression include cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), interpersonal therapy and psychotherapy.
#3. Consider going to rehab
Therapy typically takes place on an ‘outpatient basis’. This means you receive therapy for an hour or two during the day and then return home. Another option is to undergo therapy on a ‘residential basis.’
Residential treatment means you live within a rehab centre whilst you undergo a detox and therapy sessions. This means you are removed from your environment were you drink alcohol. This makes your detox easier since alcohol is not available to you whilst you experience withdrawal symptoms.
Once your detox is completed (around 6 days into your rehab), you will then engage in intense sessions of CBT and psychotherapy that seek to treat your underlying depression. This is often advantageous to outpatient treatment because you receive lots of therapy in a short space of time. This may mean you get more out of your therapy sessions compared to spreading sessions over a long period of time on an outpatient basis.
#4. Medications
We must stress that taking medications should be seen as a measure of last resort. However, if you are not able to eliminate your depression using more natural alternatives, you may consider taking anti-depressants. To reduce your drinking, you may also consider taking disulfiram (Antabuse) and acamprosate (Campral). .
#5. Exercise
Research confirms the effectiveness of exercise when it comes to the treatment of mood disorders such as depression. Robust cardiovascular exercises such as jogging, running and cycling are particularly effective when it comes to treating milder forms of depression.
#6. Relaxation
Relaxation techniques are known to effectively treat depression. Relaxation techniques we recommend include yoga, mindfulness and tai chi. These methods help you attain a state of deep relaxation.
#7. Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT)
ECT (Electroconvulsive Therapy) involves sending electric currents through the brain. These currents then trigger an epileptic seizure. This seizure is known to reduce symptoms associated with mood disorders. When you undertake ECT, you must receive a general anesthetic and other muscle relaxants. This prevents a convulsion during the seizure.
ECT is typically reserved for people suffering from life-threatening depression, and when the person has not responded to less invasive forms of mood disorder treatments. ECT is also used to treat severe postnatal depression or where a person suffers from manic or psychotic episodes.

– See more at: http://www.rehab4alcoholism.com/article/46/a-z-guide-to-alcoholism-and-depression#sthash.zVUDntly.dpuf

Additionally TBN staff recommend seeking help from the support organizations of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and AL-ANON